Monday, January 14, 2019

Uncluttering

It seems the trend right not is to declutter. People are determined to downsize their lives by getter rid of things they don’t use or need or doesn’t make them happy. I have been slowly getting rid of clothes that do not fit. Thank God I didn’t get rid of all my smaller sized clothes as I am loosing weight.

The real thing I want to work on is uncluttering my mind. This is not as easy as it seems for someone with anxiety. Everything plays in my mind over and over. 

So my solution is to try to deal with it through humor. I made this meme because someone called me a bitch, because I called them mean.  And now I have as little to do with this person as possible, bless her heart. 

So I guess what I really am doing is cutting out the negativity in my life. Kind of hard when I have a knack of being negative myself. But since I can only change me, that’s what I am choosing to do. 

The Serenity Prayer has been my mantra for years, so I will continue to repeat it as often as needed. 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

Courage to change the things I can,

And wisdom to know the difference.

I am choosing to focus on me and the things that make me happy. I am choosing to eliminate negativity from my life and if this is in the form of people then so be it. It may not be a popular position, but I feel it’s a necessary one. 

So though I don’t make resolutions, I am working on me. I always am working on me. I am a work in progress.

I am still always going to be real, though I don’t go out of my way to hurt others, I also, don’t shrink from calling others out on their bullshit. I certainly won’t tolerate snide comments or backstabbing. I will call it out, but don’t worry because I have no qualms about cutting whoever out of my life. 

This is for me and the happier me that I envision. I think by being truer to whom I want to be my husband will be happier. And that to me is the most important thing in my life. 

I think this is something we all can benefit from. I hope you are spin free.

Love, Peace and Light!  Rita

Thursday, January 10, 2019

Living with Ménière’s 

      My friend Julie White and fellow Ménière’s Warrior from Twirly Girl Art sketched this to show what we go through. She’s an amazing artist. Check out her page. 

I had hoped that the water pill would help decrease my vertigo. I did have some reprieve, but January 4, I had a small attack. It was strange because though it was brief (only a few minutes) I felt as if I was in the after effects of a major attack. Mine usually last for hours.  

                       

I screenshot this from my video after the attack.

Since then I have a general light headed feeling and dizziness. Trying to pick up the dog toys yesterday caused vertigo. It’s frustrating and I feel incompetent or is a better word impotent? 

I am trying to persevere though my head feels heavy. My ears (tinnitus) is super loud and the tones are constantly changing lately. I can deal with the cicadas that never shut up, but not the whirring or test tone noise that keeps popping up. I feel I need to say that I am not suicidal. 

This disease keeps changing on me and it’s difficult to get a handle on it. It’s totally unpredictable. My husband asked, “Do you really think that you could fall in public? My answer is, “I don’t know? It could happen.”

What I do know about it. In the past I have been slammed backwards without warning in public or at home. It’s sort of like the drop attacks except that wall or risers at the store have broken my fall in the past. It’s violent and quick and comes on without warning. The last time I had one was in May before my full blown vertigo attack. That time I did fall because our bathroom is big and I missed the wall. 

I was trying to tell him the benefits of getting me an Apple Watch Series 4. I have been preparing for the days when this disease is bad. I already use a cane on off balance days. I bought a walker with a seat to assist me if things get worse or a lot of standing might be involved. I have yet to venture out with it. 

It relieves my mind to be prepared. Taking away some of the anxiety about a disease so unpredictable is a good thing as anxiety can exacerbate the symptoms. It’s one of my main triggers. 

Each of us have different triggers. There are some things the doctors find many have in common. Alcohol, salt, stress are just a few. Alcohol is not a trigger for me, but salt makes my tinnitus scream. It doesn’t seem to cause a vertigo attack. Stress/anxiety does, so I try to avoid it. 

It’s finally a blue sky day. We’ve had variable air pressure, rain and clouds for awhile. I hope I will get back to normal for me soon. Normal is tinnitus and balance issues. Even when I was in remission, these never went away. 

I could use some peace and quiet, but fear even when I go deaf I will never have silence. The two things I knew about Ménière’s is that I would eventually go deaf and totally lose my balance. I have since learned there is no time table for this. It varies for each individual. There is no cure. Only things they can do to alleviate symptoms for a little while. 

So, here I am trying the diuretics. They were helping or may have been a placebo effect. Now they aren’t. The ENT said the next step would be to try steroids. I am thinking the injections, but she didn’t really say. 

We’ll see. Like I said most remedies are only temporary. But even a few weeks reprieve was better than nothing for me. 

     Also by Julie White. 

I hope you are spin free. 

Love, Peace and Light! Rita



Friday, January 4, 2019

Sleep/Stress-A Neverending Cycle 

I wish I could sleep consistently 5-8 hours a night. Unfortunately, that rarely happens for me. 4 hours is a good nights sleep for me, but even then I don’t feel rested when I awaken. 

This is a screenshot of my sleep patterns as recorded by my Fitbit. You can see how little I sleep. Wednesday I slept really well for me.


I am always tired when I go to bed, I should be able to sleep well. Yet, I don’t. Why? Anxiety often keeps my brain busy going over everything and anything that it perceives that I did wrong or others have done to me. It seems no amount of exhaustion,meditation or relaxation can quiet my mind. 

I have taken Trazodone in the past and it put me to sleep, but if I woke up for any reason, I could not get back to sleep. 

I try to reduce stress in my life. Unfortunately, there is always something that can trigger it. Money is one of the biggest triggers. Family is another. As much as I would like to not deal with people who cause anxiety, I can’t disown family. I can only limit my interactions with them. Sometimes that doesn’t help. 

I am a light sleeper so my husband moving or snoring can awaken me. My bladder is another problem, though it’s gotten better since I am on a water pill. Oh and a cat who meows to be fed at 3 am doesn’t help matters. Dogs wanting in bed who whine to get a light on it are spoiled, but what can I do if I want to go back to sleep? Then said dogs hog my pillows or covers and walk on top of me. 


At least the cat will purr when they lay on me. That is the most relaxing sound to me. I guess I need an app for that. 

Lack of sleep is a trigger for many of my Invisible Disabilities. If I don’t sleep I wake up sore and achy. I feel as if I am getting the flu. Sometimes it triggers vertigo, but more often than not I am just lightheaded or dizzy. Which creates more stress, because I am reliant on others. I like being able to do things on my own, but cannot drive when dizzy.

I think losing my independence is probably the most stressful thing that has happened to me. Stress triggers vertigo so it’s a never ending cycle. Though I have been relatively vertigo free since starting the diuretic, I still get the head pressure and lightheadedness associated with vertigo. Which makes me fear an attack is imminent. It’s a vicious cycle.

Then you throw in people who don’t believe that there’s something wrong no matter how you try to explain it. So stressors are everywhere. I continue to try to educate others about my invisible disabilities and other such things as well. Sometimes, something I say helps someone who has been struggling with issues themselves. That makes it worth it to me. 

So why do I let these things stress me? I don’t. It’s something in my brain or genetic make up that causes these things to stress me. Stress contributes to my lack of sleep, the lack of sleep contributes to my anxiety. It’s a vicious cycle that I want to break. 

I will continue to meditate and use relaxation exercises to try to find the inner peace and place where no stress exists. I have done it before and will again. 

I hope you are spin free.

Love, Peace and Light! Rita

Tuesday, January 1, 2019

Live and Be Happy

Life is not guaranteed. I learn that lesson over and over! My beautiful friend of over 25 years passed away yesterday. 

She was fun with an infectious laugh. She didn’t let anything get in her way of being happy. 

Valerie is the one in the middle. We were all much younger here. I saw her before Christmas and she spoke about the past and how much fun we all used to have.

In honor of my sweet friend, I am going to enjoy my life. I am letting go of old grievances and starting today as brand new! This year will be a new year and I am going to do my best to honor Valerie. 

So Live your life and be happy! Enjoy every moment, because life isn’t guaranteed. 

I hope you are spin free!

Love, Peace and Light! Rita

Happy New Year!


Sunday, December 30, 2018

Happy New Year

As another year ends and we prepare to begin anew, let’s leave the bad stuff in the past. Face the future with a brand new optimism. Let old grievances go. 

If we can do that it will make everything brighter. I know sometimes things pop up to remind you why you have those bad feelings, but accept them and then let it go again. Like you do with pesky thoughts that intrude during meditation. 

I know I’ve said this before, but I say the Serenity Prayer in my head to remind me that I cannot change everything. It’s my mantra. 

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to accept the things that I can and the wisdom to know the difference. 

I will find myself using this many times, because my brain will keep bringing up things, but I am doing my best to forgive and forget. 

I’ll focus on the people, animals, things and places that make me happy. I won’t let those other things take up residence in my head for more than a fleeting thought. 

2019 looks brighter to me and 2018 was pretty awesome. We took new adventures and will be embarking on a new journey in the spring. I will continue to find the strength within me to fight my body and head so I can enjoy my greatest adventures yet to come.

I am so lucky to have Ralph in my life. He loves me, and is beginning to understand the nature of Ménière’s Disease. We are planning many great adventures!

I hope the New Year is a happy one for you and I hope you are spin free.

Love, Peace and Light! Rita

Friday, December 28, 2018

Resolutions

This year is almost over and I am looking forward to the new year. 2019 has unlimited possibilities. While I don’t make resolutions, I do try to do things to give me peace. I wish I could say that I’m always successful, but I fail miserably.


So keeping my goal in mind I am doing my best to try to let things go. I wish I could forget, but my brain doesn’t allow me to. So I will try to let it go and forgive when applicable. Which means I am not going to discuss the past. Though I may vent about new things.

I am eating healthier out of necessity. Without the added stress of becoming ill when I eat, it’s worth it. Food allergies are no joke. My main ones are wheat and cows milk. I discovered that Yard House has a gluten free menu. It made it easier to figure out what I could eat. Don’t be afraid to make modifications to menu selections so you don’t get sick. I am lucky that my allergies just made me puke and gave me a different type of vertigo than the Ménière’s. If I accidentally ingest something I won’t die from it, but it’s still not good to be sick after eating.

As a result of eating healthier, I am losing weight. This will help with my overall well-being.  In order to help improve my balance, Ralph bought me a Simply Fit Board. This will help me get into shape as well. I want to do yoga too, but am not good at doing it on my own. 

I meditate to help me find my inner peace. It is always helpful when I follow through on it. Church has been helping by having a meditation time at the beginning of mass. And I am starting to explore my spiritual side through prayer. This should help with my letting things go.

Most of all I smile often, because even when I’m down it helps me and those around me to feel better. If I can make one person’s day by smiling then it’s worth it.

Like I said I am not always successful, but I try. I always try to be mindful and live in the moment. Do you have any New Years Resoulutions? How are you at sticking to them? 

I hope you are spin free. 

Love, Peace and Light! Rita


Wednesday, December 19, 2018

Procrastination 

I have written about this topic before. Right now I am still in bed. I need to get up and start laundry, but I am procrastinating. At lest I shouldn’t have troubles bringing the basket downstairs this week. Last week or was it the week before, I was serious off balance and dizzy and it took all my will power and a bit of help from Ralph to get it to the laundry room. Yes, I am stubborn.

We have gotten a tree yet, but I was digging through my decorations and found my Santa hat yesterday! I’d forgotten I bought it on clearance last year after Christmas. Yes I was still in my nightgown. I’d only come downstairs because Ralph made breakfast. 

I am a big procrastinator.., I have been forever. Even a college professor (Daniel Keyes) said I’d be a better writer if I stopped putting it off until the last second. Oh my did I just name drop? It was an honor to learn from a man whose book was required high school reading. 

Oh and I get easily distracted by shiny things, which makes me procrastinate more. I am even getting distracted as I write this as you can see by my reference to the book. 

I have lots to do today, but not out of the house. It’s easier to get distracted at home than anywhere else. That’s why I often went out to write before. Yes, I was still distracted by people and things when I was out, but not as much. 

Do you procrastinate? Have you been able to overcome this habit? Let me know. 

I hope you are spin free!

Love, Peace and Light! Rita